In the last post, we explored cross-mentoring and its value as a two-way conduit for sharing information between emerging and veteran contributors.
But how do you set expectations for these relationships and what questions do you ask to get started? Here are some ideas:
Set expectations. Each of the relationships is dependent upon the personalities involved. This, coupled with the type of information that might be transferred, are the two main elements to be considered. In approaching potential contributors, begin by explaining the concept. Then ask each one what they might be able to contribute to a cross-mentoring relationship. Finally, ask each one what he or she would like to gain from the relationship.
In some cases, the information to be shared might be very specific, such as procedures and processes. In others, the desire will be for informal sharing, coaching, and support. The same will be true of the desires for receiving mentoring. All participants should be reminded that these relationships will be based on trust and all conversations should be considered confidential. They must also fit within the time constraints of the busier person.
As stated in the last post, not all of these cross-mentoring relationships will work out. In other cases, the relationships may last for a short period of time based on the desire of the parties and the information to be shared. There is no right or wrong here, just the desire for meeting each person’s expectations.
Ask questions to get started. When meeting with potential contributors about their participation, ask five questions:
• What specific expertise can you bring to a co-mentoring relationship?
• What would you be seeking from a co-mentoring relationship? Please be specific.
• How often would you prefer to meet?
• What apprehensions might you have about a co-mentoring relationship?
• What strengths do you believe you would bring to a co-mentoring relationship?
Once each person has answered the questions, work with them to develop specific expectations. You might begin by asking all of those interested to respond by e-mail and then meet with each one for clarification. (Writing things down has a tendency to focus the mind and codify the commitment.)
When you have gathered information from those seeking to participate, begin to look for matches between those who wish to contribute expertise and those who are seeking it. You might provide introductions via e-mail. You might invite those in potential matches to coffee. You might even conduct a co-mentoring “fair” where all of those interested in the concept gather to meet each other and discuss interests and expectations.
In the final post of this three-part series, we’ll talk about how to convince veteran contributors that they can learn from those in the emerging generations. We’ll also explore ways to encourage young contributors bring their own expertise to the table. Stay tuned.