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10
Apr

“I Don’t Want to Look Stupid!”

Have you ever had that thought? Yeah, me too. Even in my early sixties, I can still get that twinge of fear that I might make a fool of myself. Last week, it was over approaching one of the tradespeople in Home Depot to ask a plumbing question. You know – “What if he thinks I’m dumb?” But then I

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12
Mar

Don’t Own Other People’s Decisions

Allison, a young acquaintance of mine, works for a university in the Midwest. This past September, Lori, her highly-organized and somewhat demanding supervisor moved on. Lori was replaced by Tasha, someone so laid back that it’s driving Allison nuts. Allison is a hardworking soul who feels responsible for making sure things go well, even when those around her fail to

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19
Feb

Managing the Competition Between Intuition and Worry

Last week, I was in conversation with a colleague about whether to hire a new digital media manager. I said, “My intuition is to sign the agreement, but I’m worried that she’ll skip out the minute something better comes along.” “What is the difference between intuition and worry,” he asked. That posed an interesting distinction that we all tend to

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13
Feb

Smart Decision Making Requires Emotional Intelligence

How’s your emotional intelligence? You know – Those qualities that include self-awareness, empathy and the ability to persuade others. The decision makers I’ve interviewed over the past 30 years all display various forms of these three attributes. They tie this emotional intelligence in with their intuition and understanding of context. This formula enables them to make the thoughtful choices that

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7
Jan

Are You Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable

You know the feeling . . . the nervousness, the cold sweats, the clammy hands, maybe even an eye twitch . . . when you have to making one of THOSE decisions. Maybe it’s approaching someone you find intimidating. Perhaps it’s a presentation in front of your boss and peers. Maybe it’s committing to a new job when there’s the

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29
Dec

Want to Make Better Decisions? Follow These Simple Steps

Last week, a radio host said to me, “So, I want to make better decisions. How do I do that? We have about 30 seconds left.” “That’s simple,” I said. “In any environment, at work, with friends, playing on a team, you should ask three questions. First, ‘who are the best decision-makers around me?’ Second, ‘What are they doing that

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28
Dec

Managing Emotions Makes for Better Decisions

I worked for a moving company in New York City during my early twenties. For the first week on the job, I rode with Charlie Micucci (ma-sue-chee) who was supposed to show me the ropes. Charlie was a short, lovable, and passionate Italian man of about 60. He taught me how to move desks, filing cabinets, even safes with a

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12
Dec

Slow Down and Make Your Best Decisions

You hear people say it all the time – “I’m just sooo busy!” Yes, we all make more decisions these days. But are they the decisions that really count? In reality, most of these choices have little, if any, effect on our long-term outcomes. But then there are the decisions that can impact our job, our relationships or our pocketbook.

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6
Nov

The Value of Making Illogical Decisions

My parents hammered into me the value of being a good consumer. One of the principles I heard over and over was, “Be thrifty. Don’t pay for something you’re not really going to use.” So, when the following situation arose recently, I was a little befuddled. Last year, my wife and I “cut the cord.” In other words, we tried

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2
Oct

Beliefs Inform Behavior

This past week, a colleague reminded me of the old saying “beliefs inform behavior.” Chances are, everyone reading this post has heard this adage, or a similar sentiment. While mostly invoked when considering your own thinking and outlook, it is important for those supervising others to consider it as they oversee daily activity. Having managed people in various settings over

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